Even people who love each other become angry at each other. Anger is a normal feeling. However we must be careful how we express it. To treat yourself and your partner respectfully here are some suggestions for when one or both of you are angry!

1. Remain calm
If you find yourself yelling or sounding irrational, you are probably too angry to talk. Tell your partner you need a "Time out" and assure them you will finish the discussion later.

2. Plan a time to discuss problems.
It helps to talk about problems before the problem becomes glaring and overwhelming. No one likes to be put on the spot or attacked. It helps to schedule a time to talk about what's bothering you.

3. Try to use "I" statements.
Be direct and let your partner know how you feel. Offer an idea for a solution to the problem but try to remain open-minded and be willing to compromise or negotiate.

Example of "I" statement…
"I feel disrespected when you put my ideas down. I think we both have important things to say. I would appreciate if you listened to my ideas without judging them."

This is an example to get you thinking about "I" statements. Use your own words. If either person becomes too angry to talk…give each other space and talk about it later.